Friday, November 30th, 2018
I'm not a fan of resolutions. While they're set with good intentions, we almost never keep them, and I have a theory as to why.
Instead of making one resolution that aligns with who you are today, resolutions are often huge aspirations: arbitrary goals we think will make us better versions of ourselves in the future.
That might not sound like a bad thing, but if it's a huge stretch and doesn't feel like something the real you would actually do, it's likely that you won't bother. And if you give up, you could end the year feeling badly about yourself, which is definitely not the point of the exercise.
What if there was another way to enter a new year, and get to the end feeling like you made it count? I think it's possible, if you're able to set goals that align with your values—not your aspirations. Let me break this idea down. It's my favourite way to set goals for the year!
I want to be clear and say that it's still fine if your goals feel a little aspirational. In fact, "growth" or "learning" could be on your list of values. Maybe this year will be a big year for you, but it's also fine if your goals feel more grounded.
After determining your values, your goals can be more specific than generic resolutions. They'll be personalized to you, by you. How fulfilling would it be to get to the end of the year and feel like you lived (and budgeted) according to your values? It's doable. I'll say cheers to that.